Friday, August 26, 2011

Five Things For Friday, 13th Edition


Some of you may have noticed but my "Five Things for Friday" is a shameless imitation of the "7 Quick Takes Friday" that Conversion Diary hosts each Friday. Several months ago I was struggling with knowing what direction to take this blog. I was discovering that it is difficult to write a blog that is so specifically focused on one topic and still find a way to include a personal and familiar tone. I was impressed with how Jennifer's Conversion Diary blog is such a wonderful mix of the spiritual, the factual, and the personal and so I thought I'd copy her. They say that imitation is the best form of flattery right?

So in what is another shameless imitation I want to open my "Five Things for Friday" post up for other people to link to. This means that I am going to be regularly posting my "Five Things for Friday" posts and that each week there will be a linky tool at the bottom of each post so that you can write your own version of "Five Things for Friday" on your blog and then link to it here. I am hoping that this will be a fun way for me to get to know some of you better and for my readers to get to know each other better. That is really what makes blogging so much fun... creating new relationships with people all over the world. So please take advantage of this. I'd love to meet more of you!


Finally, after months of waiting, Julie Beck's 2011 BYU Women's Conference talk has been transcribed (you can access the PDF here)! I was dying to read this (she is after all my hero) and it doesn't disappoint. It is long--12 pages-- but so worth the time. She gives so many beautiful insights into women's roles and responsibilities. Here is one of my favorite parts:

I’ve learned through studying the history of Relief Society that we have and live with an inseparable connection to the priesthood. The Prophet Joseph Smith put the sisters in the position to receive all the gifts, blessings, and privileges of the priesthood. We need never confuse the idea of those who hold the priesthood in trust, with the priesthood. The priesthood is God’s power. It is His power to create, to bless, to lead, to serve as He does. The priesthood duty of every righteous man is to qualify for the blessing of holding that priesthood and trust for the Lord so that he can bless his family and those around him. And I will say the priesthood duty of sisters is to create life, to nurture it, to prepare it for covenants of the Lord. Don’t confuse the power with the keys and the offices of the priesthood. God’s power is limitless and it is shared with those who make and keep covenants. Too much is said and misunderstood about what the brothers have and the sisters don’t have. This is Satan’s way of confusing both men and women so neither understands what they really have. Sisters and brothers each have every ordinance, every gift, and every blessing available to them to get back to our Father in Heaven, and no one, male or female, is left outside of those blessings to qualify for exaltation. There is a unity in the council and the covenant that is required us to get there. Neither the man nor the woman can ascend without the other. We are inseparably connected in that way. And I understand how special women are. I understand how special men are. And together we’re more special. We become what the Lord wants us to become.
I also loved her insights about Mary and Martha's story and the "bread crumbs" of women's history that can be found in the scriptures. It is such a good talk. Make sure you take the time to read it!


We have chosen not to find out the gender of our baby this time around. We found out with both of our others but this time we thought it would be fun to try it the other way. Even though we had our 20 week ultrasound months ago ( I am 28 weeks) it still drives me crazy knowing that the ultrasound lady knows what our baby is but I don't! I haven't had any premonitions about the gender and sometimes I just wish this little child would let me know if it is a "he" or a "she"!

Still, it has also been a very profound experience for me to not know the gender. I've learned to listen a little more closely to my body and to this baby's spirit. It has taught me that my ability to love is stronger and deeper than I ever imagined. This time around, because I don't know the gender, I've realized that I love this baby not because it is a boy and not because it is a girl but because it is a new LIFE. I love this baby because it is a unique and ancient soul who has put their trust in me to bring them to earth and help them gain a body. Knowing the gender of that soul makes NO difference in my willingness to love and welcome him/her into my home or my ability to love and nurture. I know that no matter how this baby comes-- boy, girl, with physical limitations, health challenges, or learning struggles-- I will love him/her just the same. I have learned that lesson in a much more powerful way this pregnancy and it has really changed my perspective. I can already feel my heart expanding to make room and it has got me super excited to meet this person who is kicking my insides!


Speaking of meeting this little one... I know that there are some of you who are interest in what our birth plans are going to be. As of right now we are planning to have this baby at home with a certified and licensed midwife. We've had both of our other two at home (you can read their birth stories here and here) and the experiences have been really wonderful.

My husband and I after the birth of our son

With every pregnancy my husband and I always put a lot of prayer and fasting into which care provider to see and where to give birth. Initially we both thought that I might be having this
baby at the hospital because my first trimester was a little rough. Yet things are looking really good and both my doctor and my midwife consider me low-risk. Granted, birth plans can always change but as my husband and I have prayed about this child we feel a lot of peace about welcoming him/her into our home in the same way we have the others. I am just hoping that this one doesn't come as fast as Rose did. Her labor was only 3 hours from my first contraction to holding her in my arms and WOW was it a roller coaster ride! Fast labors are much more intense and I couldn't relax or cope with the contractions like I had been able to with Asher (his labor was about 10 hours)-- I just had to bellow my way through it and it was hard. I'm thinking a 5 or 6 hour labor would be just about right, not too long and not too fast. Are you hearing that little one? I know you have your own plans but if it is at all possible...


You are cordially invited to attend my Usborne Book e-party this week and enter for a chance to win $50 in free books! If you haven't seen the Usborne books before they are really a treat. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE their non-fiction books. I am especially excited about their books on world religions and history for young kids. It is so hard to find good resources to teach those topics to children and these books are beautiful... and not too expensive. I spent hours drooling over their catalog... my wish list is pretty long!

If this is something you might be interested in-- or if you were going to order books from Usborne anyway-- PLEASE go and check out my e-party. The more people who buy books through my party the more free books I get. I know, this really is a selfish invitation.... but there is always the chance you might win the $50 in free books!


Now it is your turn! Below is a linky list if you’d like to add a link to your own Five Things for Friday post. (1) Make sure the link you submit is to the URL of your post and not your main blog (2) Include a link back here.


  1. Heather, you are so wonderful! I just LOVE your blog.

    I wanted to comment on two things: first of all, you really gave me a boost with what you wrote about Rose's birth. Rachel's was so fast as well (also three hours) and I never caught my breath, either. I've always been a little disappointed in myself that I didn't "handle" it better. But you just made like maybe I did okay after all. :)

    Secondly, I loved what you wrote about loving and accepting this child for who he/she is regardless of gender. What a neat experience. When I was pregnant with Rachel I was convinced she would be a special needs child. I just had a feeling that that was in my future. It was a bit of a struggle, but I ultimately was able to accept it. I was totally surprised when she appeared completely healthy. And now, six months later, it is my son who is the one with special needs. I can really see how the spirit worked in my life to prepare me for this. It is still hard...I still have moments where I struggle, but it's true, I love him just the same!

    Sorry this is just keep pushing my buttons lately! (In a good way).

  2. I've already posted my Friday post, so I won't do a link up. I absolutely adore Sister Beck -- I've really appreciated all of the teaching that has been done lately about the relationship with the Priesthood and the Relief Society. The question/answer sessions that she's started on Mormon Channel is also so helpful. Thanks for the heads up on this talk.

  3. We are not finding out the gender our third baby, either (also out with previous 2). I am really looking forward to the moment of the birth when we can announce "It's a...!" I think it will be an amazing moment. This is our first homebirth and I have felt a lot of peace about the decision, but lately I've been reading some stuff on the internet that has me questioning. Your post reminded me where I need to look for reassurance, thanks!

  4. I had my last several babies at home after 2 C-sections, but never had a fast or easy birth. The shortest was 21 hours the longest 73. Big babies/little mama.

  5. I love that part you put in bold from Sis. Beck, of course!!! :-) Love you!