Last night my husband and I started watching the movie "Young Victoria". I'd heard such wonderful things about this movie and was so excited to see it. I drilled several of my friends who'd seen it about if it was clean... really, clean. They know that my husband and I have really strong standards about what we will watch and what we won't. They assured me that it was rated PG and didn't have anything dirty in it. I was loving the movie and was just starting to thinking how wonderful it was until the honeymoon scenes started! Granted the actors were partially clothed, but they were still participating in movements, actions and situations that were highly sexualized and intimate.
We have a zero tolerance policy in our home concerning pornography (pornography is anything that is intended to sexually arouse) and since these scenes definitely fit into the definition of pornography we turned the movie off.
Part of me wanted to justify it away because the rest had been so good, but I couldn't. I know the damage that watching even "soft" pornography has on the soul. It had been so good. Why, why, why did they have to ruin it with pornographic scenes?
IT MADE ME SO ANGRY!
It even has a PG rating! Does that mean anything any more? Obviously not.
Am I the only one is the world who sees something so incredibly wrong with the fact that as a society we think it is okay for two actors to pretend to participate in one of the most sacred events on this earth? Why do we think that just because they aren't totally naked or that they don't show "too much" that it is still okay to show men and women in these sort of situations? We would never want a video camera in our bedrooms, nor would we want a glimpse into the bedrooms of our neighbors, so what makes us so willing to watch it in videos? Is it just because it is pretend? Isn't there something even MORE wrong about watching two unmarried actors participate in actions and emotions that should be sacred and intimate?
Are we so desensitized to sexuality in movies and TV that we no longer consider intimacy sacred? It it just entertainment or a quick and easy way for movie makers to get the point across that the characters are in love? Why do we have to equate love with sexuality? Really, I think most of us understand that if a couple gets married and that a baby follows a few months later... that something happened in between. Do we REALLY need to SEE it. NO, NO, NO, NO!
Now I realize that by most worldly standards and compared to other PG-13 and R movies this movie was really "clean." That still doesn't make it okay. Seeing these sort of things breaks down our ability to see such acts as sacred and beautiful. I know that if I could go back in my life and erase all the sexualized scenes I've seen I would do it in a heartbeat. They slowly eat away at parts of my soul.
Really I can't tell you how disturbed I was that this movie was rated PG, meaning that they-- whoever "they" is-- feel that sexuality-- or as they put it "mild sensuality" is okay for children to be watching.
I'm loosing my faith in movies and media. There are so few movies that don't have something sexual, violent or crude in them. It seems like all of them have some portion of scum in them.
Can you renew my faith? What movies out there that are really and truly "clean"... squeaky, squeaky clean? No sex. No violence. No bad language. No crudeness. Do such movies exist?
Please realize this is an emotional rant and you don't have to be offended or justify it if you liked this movie or have different standards then me. I just needed to get this off my chest.