Still, the last few months I haven't been able to get you off my mind.
You could be anyone one, live anywhere and be doing anything.... who knows perhaps I've already met you. Sometimes I try to imagine you rocking a little girl in your arms, the little girl who will one day be the woman my son hold in his arms. I imagine you taking pictures of her and putting them in a scrapbook that one day my son will show me when when he asks me who I think new grandchild looks like.
I see a mother pushing her daughter on the swings at the park and I can't help but wonder if that is you... if that is her. I decide to love them anyway, just in case.
It seems strange that even though we don't know each other we are already "star-crossed mothers" whose lives are destined to one day be intertwined through our children's love. We are in a partnership you and I... I'm preparing my son for your daughter and you are preparing her for my son.
I love you already.
A few months ago I came upon this article and haven't been able to stop thinking about this part...
I just want to remind you that these first few years we have with our children, even though it seems like they never listen and behave like wild baboons, are not a waste of our time. We are laying the foundation, the very core, of who these children are going to become. Through our consistent and unconditional love we are teaching them that who they are, male and female, is divine and wonderful; through our relationships with our husbands we are teaching them that relationships between men and women are beautiful; and through our daily actions we are showing them that loving and being loved is possible.
The period of life from birth to approximately three years of age is the time when a child becomes aware of gender—of being a boy or girl... Children are privileged to be males or females by divine creation. Help them feel that whichever gender they are, they are of great worth. ... The relationships that you build with your children during their early years will have a tremendous influence on the way they feel later about developing their own intimate relationships. While your children are very young, you can teach them the value of loving and being loved. During this period, you should also be careful to react properly to your young children’s discoveries of their bodies.
...It is in this early stage of life, as the roles of male and female are acquired, that the foundation of sexual health is laid or sexual distress begins. By age three most children should have firmly accepted their identity as male or female. When family unhappiness has led them to feel unaccepted, they may become confused about their self-esteem and their gender role. Loving, consistent parenting helps children accept themselves and their gender identity during these three years. Unkind parenting can plant seeds of self-doubt and even confusion about the gender role. These seeds can germinate into personal problems in the following years unless parents change and show increased affection and acceptance.
I just want you to know that I am trying my hardest to be a good mother. I'm trying my hardest to fill this little boy up with love, knowledge, and integrity so that he will be the man you want for your daughter. I am doing everything I can to teach him about who he is, what his mission is on earth, and how to treat women with love and respect. I want him to be the type of man who will cherish your daughter and nurture your... our... grandchildren.
I'm hoping in about 20 years from now he will be ready for her.